Learning to Say No: How Micro-Dosing Magic Mushrooms Transformed My Boundaries

I can say no. For as long as I can remember, I’ve been a people pleaser, often to my own detriment. The frustrating part was that I didn’t even realize how much I was compromising myself until I looked back and felt anger towards myself for agreeing to things I didn’t truly want to do. There were so many times I agreed just because I felt like I had no valid reason to say no, even when I didn’t want to say yes.

That all started to change after I began micro-dosing magic mushrooms. Without fully realizing it at first, my subconscious began to speak up for me, saying “no” even before I had consciously processed the situation. The first time this happened was a moment that took both me and my mother-in-law by surprise. We were at her house, getting ready to leave, when she suggested that we all come back inside so she could make us to-go plates. Normally, I would have gone along with it, even though I knew it would push my kids’ bedtimes later, which always resulted in them being grumpy after our hour-long drive home. But before I even had time to think, my mouth firmly said, “No.”

This was a shock to both of us. In the past, I’d always been accommodating with my mother-in-law, often at the expense of my own comfort and my children’s needs. But this time was different. The word “no” just came out, and to my surprise, there was no fallout. My husband didn’t argue with me, my in-laws didn’t take offense, and my mother-in-law simply accepted it and invited us back another time. It was as though the world didn’t collapse just because I had put my foot down for once.

Since that first incident, I’ve felt more empowered to pause and consider my own needs before giving a reply to requests that I might later regret. I’ve learned that it’s okay to say no, that my own boundaries are valid, and that I don’t need to justify them to anyone. The shift was subtle but profound, and it has brought a sense of relief and empowerment into my life that I hadn’t experienced before.

Micro-dosing magic mushrooms has allowed me to tap into a deeper level of self-awareness and self-respect. The mushrooms didn’t just help me say “no” in that one moment; they’ve helped me redefine my relationship with the word entirely. I’ve started to recognize that my automatic people-pleasing tendencies were often rooted in a fear of conflict or disappointing others, but I’ve realized that saying no is not about being difficult or unkind—it’s about honoring my own needs and well-being.

This change has brought about a new sense of balance in my relationships. I no longer feel as though I’m constantly sacrificing my own comfort for the sake of keeping the peace. Instead, I’m more thoughtful about when I say yes, and more comfortable with asserting my own needs when necessary. The more I practice this, the easier it becomes, and the more I see how it positively impacts my life and the lives of those around me.

In the past, I would have agonized over a decision as simple as whether or not to accept my mother-in-law’s offer. I would have worried about the potential for conflict, the possibility of hurting her feelings, and the guilt of putting my own needs first. But now, I’m learning to trust my instincts and to believe that I can say no when it’s the right thing for me, without the world falling apart.

This journey has been an eye-opening experience, and it’s made me realize how much I was holding myself back by constantly saying yes. The power of micro-dosing magic mushrooms has helped me unlock a part of myself that I didn’t even know was there—the part that knows how to say no, and mean it, with confidence and without guilt. This newfound ability has not only improved my mental and emotional well-being but has also strengthened my relationships by making them more honest and balanced.

In the end, learning to say no has been one of the most liberating experiences of my life. It’s not just about refusing a request—it’s about reclaiming my voice, setting healthy boundaries, and living in a way that truly respects my own needs. And for that, I am incredibly grateful.